tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-849583276019228310.post4367867621075683276..comments2024-03-28T05:29:45.364-04:00Comments on Heim Binas Fiction: Being YourselfCKHBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17741681893677604323noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-849583276019228310.post-78813494510593590082009-10-20T10:51:16.865-04:002009-10-20T10:51:16.865-04:00I read this yesterday and I had to think about it ...I read this yesterday and I had to think about it for a while. I think I work to overcome the stigma that comes with being a stay-at-home mom. I don't want people to look at me and think I just stay home with my kids because I'm not smart enough or driven enough to get a real job. <br /><br />If I'm totally honest with myself I think this is some of the reason I started writing. I wanted to show that I'm competent-- that I can do something great even though I don't have a career.Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00861022355718378425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-849583276019228310.post-11118109891266967922009-10-20T09:29:50.991-04:002009-10-20T09:29:50.991-04:00As much as we try, I think we all hide parts of ou...As much as we try, I think we all hide parts of ourselves from others. We all need personal boundaries. However, the key for me is trying to portray who I really am--both good and bad. It's easy to get into the trap of only letting people see the good and then we come across as perfect when we know we're not!Jody Hedlundhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12424307540530719614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-849583276019228310.post-14945784200667107302009-10-19T23:31:22.462-04:002009-10-19T23:31:22.462-04:00I try not to make adjustments for other people, bu...I try not to make adjustments for other people, but I guess I do it. We all do to some extent I suppose :)Tabitha Birdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08196816108272065974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-849583276019228310.post-38807271356922284062009-10-19T22:56:30.554-04:002009-10-19T22:56:30.554-04:00I think that I take the Barack Obama approach.
I&...I think that I take the Barack Obama approach.<br /><br />I'm a youngish, black, gay lady. <br /><br />I just show up exactly how I feel like showing up that day and let people work it out around me.<br />It's amazing the kind of responses I've gotten about my ties at work.<br /><br />Also, I look a lot younger than I am, so that always throws people off. <br /><br />I love it when who I know myself to be, face-palms the viewer's impression of who I am (like when I talk about opera or my love of Barbra Streisand). <br /><br />I think it as a teaching moment.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-849583276019228310.post-68024112450272152522009-10-19T20:58:13.111-04:002009-10-19T20:58:13.111-04:00I think that some people mistake my shyness for sn...I think that some people mistake my shyness for snobbiness. Also, being from New Orleans, people have a lot of stereotypes about that.Roni Lorenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02719679344024635326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-849583276019228310.post-3659354140167966352009-10-19T20:42:46.330-04:002009-10-19T20:42:46.330-04:00Interesting brain fodder. Now I'm thinking.......Interesting brain fodder. Now I'm thinking....<br /><br />I think it's more important to BE yourself, than worry about yourself being correctly interpreted, because interpretation is so subjective. Act one way all the time, and each person you encounter will filter their opinions through their own experience. It's impossible to monitor how we are perceived by others. <br /><br />Just my humble opinion. :)Katie Gansherthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09150375338556869812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-849583276019228310.post-41639705032661553942009-10-19T20:01:33.069-04:002009-10-19T20:01:33.069-04:00People take me as a stereotypical Jersey wiseguy. ...People take me as a stereotypical Jersey wiseguy. I've tried to change my look and my accent but it doesn't work. <br /><br />I've had people down here actually ask if I could get rid of a problem for them. That's right-have someone whacked! <br /><br />Then they get mad when I tell them how much it costs' ---go figure---Johnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01793972339968446986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-849583276019228310.post-15318770127986137202009-10-19T17:21:03.495-04:002009-10-19T17:21:03.495-04:00I've lived most of my adult life overseas bein...I've lived most of my adult life overseas being judged as a loud mouth, arrogant American, imperialist, millionaire... well, you get the point.<br /> I am just me, all the time, take it or leave it. Most people tell me, "You don't act like an American." However, when I ask, "How many Americans do you know?" They usually say,"Just you!" <br /> I figure stereotypes re like rules...meant to be broken!Rita Locahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09961929692808138092noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-849583276019228310.post-66561257223483947582009-10-19T15:25:56.685-04:002009-10-19T15:25:56.685-04:00This is timely. I was just feeling rather sorry fo...This is timely. I was just feeling rather sorry for myself because I got a load of crap from various people at work this morning. It always seems to me that no one appreciates the range of what I can do, that because I have a child I am not as good as I could be, or because I'm a small female I can be easily talked over.<br /><br />I hate that I'm not meek, but I come across that way in the end.Sierra Godfreyhttp://sierragodfrey.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-849583276019228310.post-29886465211745367512009-10-19T14:51:13.321-04:002009-10-19T14:51:13.321-04:00Very interesting post.
Hmm. I think when people f...Very interesting post.<br /><br />Hmm. I think when people first see me, they see a quiet, rather shy, librarian-type. I'm pretty much that way - but I can be wild and crazy, too.<br /><br />I like to think that when people see me, they really DO see me. There's one exception to this, however. I have always wanted to dress more vintage - from the 30s and 40s to Victorian-inspired outfits. I would love to wear hats. But I can't make myself do it. I can't leave the house looking like that unless I'm going to a costume party. That's one area where I wish I were stronger and could reveal that part of my personality.Melissa Amateishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16086267508858187716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-849583276019228310.post-31376002573666787372009-10-19T14:50:03.369-04:002009-10-19T14:50:03.369-04:00Interesting. Being an ironworker, people assume I’...Interesting. Being an ironworker, people assume I’m a pea-brained, Neanderthal type of brute with testosterone to spare and picture my weekends with me screaming at the football game on TV with a six pack at my side. I understand because I somewhat look the part. When I tell them I’m a writer (or a musician), they all seem to be surprised. <br /><br />I don’t really adjust the way I act much. I'm comfortable now with who I am. I rarely watch sports and I never drink beer. I may appear to be a dim-witted blue collar worker, but I can beat everyone I know at Scrabble and chess any day of the week.<br /> <br />I'm also half-retarded with a sense of humor that takes getting used to . I'm constantly putting my foot in my mouth so maybe they're right.<br /><br /><br />Nevermind...Charlie Ricehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02347938747849177632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-849583276019228310.post-42228861341277549742009-10-19T14:42:16.294-04:002009-10-19T14:42:16.294-04:00Fascinating. After I finished with my blog post f...Fascinating. After I finished with my blog post for today I checked my Google Reader and went to your post. I was surprised by how similar the content was. I think thematically we were quite different, but our approaches were somewhat alike. Check it out & let me know what you think.<br />http://tossingitout.blogspot.com/<br /> <br />But as far as what you are saying, I like to be authentically me. I don't fit well into the traditional corporate image which is why I've probably ended up in some fairly unorthodox work settings. I want to be recognized for my ideas and what I can do, not by what kind of suits and ties I have in my wardrobe.<br />LeeArlee Birdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11663942782929929334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-849583276019228310.post-4162247818964887502009-10-19T14:32:33.732-04:002009-10-19T14:32:33.732-04:00I've been learning this for myself, and it'...I've been learning this for myself, and it's actually a big lesson for my main character, too!Janna Leadbetterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06339705935553160673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-849583276019228310.post-26489677385864007712009-10-19T12:56:29.382-04:002009-10-19T12:56:29.382-04:00I'm a pastor's wife. That's loaded wit...I'm a pastor's wife. That's loaded with expectations. I work on being known on my own merits outside of this role. Plus, I have one fantastic husband who supports who I am, what I do, and how I think.Caroline Starr Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04597510685273079757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-849583276019228310.post-4897851979936373952009-10-19T12:26:01.886-04:002009-10-19T12:26:01.886-04:00I suppose I do. Setting and social circle matter, ...I suppose I do. Setting and social circle matter, I'm much different with close friends and family.Tanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10518718614911804428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-849583276019228310.post-42763823269595978292009-10-19T12:18:09.446-04:002009-10-19T12:18:09.446-04:00Definitely. Being a missionary comes with its own ...Definitely. Being a missionary comes with its own stereotypes, none of which are true. Of course, if I don't tell people I'm a missionary, I get the "lazy spoiled leech" look since I'm not currently working and living in my parents' house. It's a catch-22. Thankfully, that's changing because now I can tell people that I'm coming on staff with an organization.Kristen Torres-Torohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15903038121623389560noreply@blogger.com