Showing posts with label ISBW. Show all posts
Showing posts with label ISBW. Show all posts

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Shiny Tiara Power

Yep. That's a tiara on my head. Wanna make something of it?

Mur Lafferty rocks my world.

Seriously, if you want to write fiction, and you're not listening to Mur's I Should Be Writing podcast, then I'm just convinced you're not really trying. It's like the best blog ever, but in audio format, and with published-author interviews.

Anyway, Mur recently wrote a blog post about Sour Grapes and Spite in which she was brutally honest about the bitterness and resentment some of us feel when others get what we want. Because it's not always abstract. Sometimes it's not just that you think that "others" who can't write as well as you are making the big bucks while you toil away in impoverished obscurity... sometimes someone else gets the job or the grant or gets to write the exact article you were trying to score for yourself. You strive to be the best you that you can be, and you do your research and write your cover letters and design your proposal and write your butt off and do everything you could have done... and someone else gets it anyway.

Let us take a moment to mourn and rage against the competitors.

(And maybe you, personally, don't ever feel this way... in which case you must be really Zen, or really in touch with your higher power, or just really really a better person than I am, but if you're not one of those totally unbelievably generous and kind people, you'll know what I'm talking about. The rest of you can go away and have a cupcake because you clearly deserve it and you don't need to waste time reading about petty jealousies because you're above that. Kudos.)

Now, after you've mourned and raged (and, if you're me, gotten your husband to trash-talk that person for you while you eat ice cream)... WHAT DO YOU DO NEXT?

I am prepared to forgive repeated lapses into unlovely thoughts about those who get what we feel is "rightfully" ours, but after a while wallowing ceases to be therapeutic and actually stunts progress. And that's a problem.

In her post, Mur wondered why she didn't just go out and do the things she wanted to do, despite not getting that position/grant money. Why not just go do it anyway? Naturally it would have been easier to do all the things she wanted if she had funding and a fancy title, but, as she put it:
I don’t need the label to do the work, and if I honestly thought I could help people out, then why did I need the shiny tiara power of the position to do so?
(You were wondering what was up with the tiara. Now you know.)

So, I am hereby distributing Shiny Tiara Power to those who need it. Maybe you don't have the imprimatur that you would have gotten by virtue of getting the job / the grant / the article / publication. But I bet there's something you can do in that same direction without any official sanction. Go put on your tiara. Go do it.

I don't know if I'll ever be able to be totally let go of that nugget of spitefulness I've been known to harbor... but maybe I can roll it up in a nice productive/competitive outer shell. Maybe I can make sure that it always drives me forward rather than stopping me cold.

Also, I should probably learn to blowdry my hair and put on some makeup before I post photos of myself online, but whatever.

Thursday, January 14, 2010

Other people's advice


First, I present to you Randy Susan Meyer's 10 Commandments of Book Launching. GENIUS. She knows of what she speaks, because her novel The Murderer's Daughters launches in less than one week. If you're in the Boston area, there will be a book launch party, and donations matching all book sales that night will go to The Home for Little Wanderers.

Second, we have some advice from Joan Wickersham... she was told that the original source of this advice was Dostoyevsky but was unable to confirm the attribution. Whoever said it first, it's good:

Every story has three versions: the version you tell your friends, the version you tell yourself, and the version you're afraid to tell yourself.

Write the third one.

Finally, we have a great post on pushing yourself by Mur Lafferty. It comes complete with a photo from Cake Wrecks... please tell me you all already knew about Cake Wrecks.

Thursday, December 31, 2009

Accountability


Tonight, in most parts of the world, there will be a blue moon. A "blue moon" is not actually blue, but instead is the name given to the second full moon falling in any given calendar month: this typically happens only once every 2.5 years. A New Year's Eve blue moon only happens once every nineteen years, so this is pretty cool.

What else happens only very rarely? A New Year's Resolution lasting past February. But it's going to be 2010, a nice round number, and we have a nice round moon to kick off the year, so let's see if we can stick to our guns this year, shall we? I am hereby making a public commitment to the following resolutions:
  • Work out more often. Work out with greater effort. (Let's face it: listening to an audiobook for half an hour while idly pedaling on a stationary bike with low resistance doesn't really count as "working out".)
  • Eat better. My husband has agreed to help me pick out recipes on the weekend so that I actually have a game plan for grocery shopping and cooking each week.
  • Embrace my time more fully. The parents who read this will know in particular what I'm talking about: the trap of feeling guilty for ignoring your kids when you're working, then feeling frustrated when you're with your kids (because you think you should be working). Pardon my French, but that guilt loop is bullshit. I'm done with it. I'm going to revel in reading The Berenstain Bears for the 100th time while I'm doing it, and then I'll focus fully on my writing and other work when Serious Girl is otherwise occupied.
  • Participate in Operation Step it Up a Notch. Some of my mom friends and I have done this before, and I Should Be Writing listeners will recognize this as the PANTS concept: looking professional means being more professional, even if you're working out of the home. Get showered early even if you've nowhere to be. Put on pants (preferably ones that don't make you look like a slob). In my case, this also includes actually combing my hair once in a while.
  • Read more. Write more.
  • Organize our family life better: that means fixing the metadata on those photos that claim they were taken in 2006 even though they're obviously from some time in 2008, throwing out things that can't be regifted or resold in a reasonable period of time, getting the paperwork in order (ideally, in an order that can be understood by someone else, should the need arise). I used to be great at this stuff, but I've lost my touch. Time to get back in gear.
  • Making the time to pursue happiness. Writing classes, dance classes, and baking with my daughter are on the top of this list.
How about you? Post in the comments, and make yourself just a little bit more accountable for keeping these commitments going throughout the new year. And... HAPPY NEW YEAR, everyone!


Tuesday, December 29, 2009

One Good Thing


Sorry, I've been off my usual daily posting schedule due to the holidays -- Serious Girl is currently playing politely with Scotch tape in my lap as I write, but her patience with my "other interests" is limited.

So, quickly... please tell me something good or memorable that happened to you in 2009. In keeping with the image above, I'll give you two.

Thing One:

On Xmas Eve, we took Serious Girl to the Metropolitan Museum of Art to see the big Jackson Pollock. She knows the painting from her Olivia book, and it was so good to be able to bring her to see it in person. We walked into the room in the modern art wing, and when she saw it (it is WAY bigger than you think) she sort of slowed down, and whispered, that's Jackson Pollock. We looked at it for a long time.

Thing Two:

The year of querying. Yeah, it's actually been good. In 2009, I finished the final draft of the novel, started querying, started blogging, and found the coolest community of writers (and agents/editors/other interested parties who also care about writing). This year I got to write the show notes for Mur Lafferty's awesome podcast, and a year ago I didn't even know that podcasts existed.

Okay, the two-year-old is no longer willing to tolerate my multi-tasking...

What will you remember about 2009?

Before 2010: there will be a RESOLUTIONS post

Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Banned Book Week


Sorry for my failure to post yesterday -- I thought I would have time to blog despite my packed schedule, but I had less time than I expected, and I didn't want to rush the topic.

This week is BANNED BOOKS WEEK.

The American Library Association has released its list of the top ten most frequently challenged books for 2008, and I have to say that I was particularly saddened by the appearance of two of the books on the list. Go read the list, then come back, and we'll discuss.

(Whistling patiently.)

Okay. So, what did you think? Have you read any of them? (Perhaps the one that's been on the NY Times bestseller list for a couple years?) I've read four, and the two that I'm going to mention here are on my wish list for my 2.5-year-old daughter. They were on my must-buy list before I realized someone else wanted to ban them.

And Tango Makes Three is the true story of Roy and Silo, two male chinstrap penguins from the Central Park Zoo who successfully hatched an egg and raised a baby female penguin together -- that would be the titular Tango. (Sadly, after 6 years together, Roy and Silo broke up in 2005.) As a former New Yorker, I was always going to buy this book. It went on my own wish list years before I even had a kid. (I am also a guaranteed customer for books about NYC hawks or NYC polar bears.) This book has been the #1 challenged book on the ALA's list since the book was released.

Uncle Bobby's Wedding is a story about a little girl guinea pig who is worried that her favorite uncle will treat her differently after he gets married. I cannot tell you how much I love this little book. It expresses a young child’s concerns about family relationships and change. It stresses the power of love to encompass both old and new. The fact that Chloe will be getting two uncles instead of an uncle and an aunt is pretty much incidental to the story, and it makes me so amazingly happy to see that in a kid's book (instead of a story that talks about how different such a thing might be, not that there's anything wrong with it.)

Someone wants to ban Uncle Bobby's Wedding? Dammit! It breaks my heart to think that there are people out there -- other parents, probably, according to this pie chart showing Challenges by Initiator -- trying to make sure that my kid doesn't have the opportunity to read this book, when in fact I am constantly on the lookout for books exactly like this one: books that CASUALLY show a little bit of diversity. (Similarly, I am always on the lookout for books that CASUALLY show strong women. Not, oh, wow, here's the one princess in a million who doesn't need a prince to rescue her, isn't that so rare and amazing, because it shouldn't be rare, okay?)

If I didn't live in a liberal town that puts these books in the front of the display, if I didn't have enough money to own a computer and be able to buy books online, these sweet and wonderful books might not be available to me or my daughter. This saddened me more than the idea that Huck Finn was on the top ten most challenged list for 2007, because I always kind of assumed that all challenges to that classic are going to fail. But... the more I read on the ALA website, the horrified I'm becoming. Check out the ALA's list of banned or challenged classics and the reasons for the challenges -- To Kill A Mockingbird was banned from the Lindale,Tex. advanced placement English reading list in 1996 because the book "conflicted with the values of the community." What values might those be, if you please?

I joined the library committee for my daughter's preschool last month, because I love books and I want to make sure that the best books are always available to my daughter. And I am now going to send a big fat donation to a public library. I practically lived in the NYC public libraries growing up, and this week is as good as any to give a little back. I'm also going to go pay full price for those two books, new, right now, instead of waiting for a used copy to become available.

QUESTIONS FOR YOU:

Is there any situation in which you think banning books is appropriate? This is not a trick question, I promise. Nathan Bransford took a poll about whether children's books should have content ratings, and 38% said it's a good idea, so obviously there are plenty of people who don't want their kids reading certain books at a certain age. But how do we collectively decide what is available, and where? Is there anyone you would trust to decide which books should be banned from your community library or public schools? Who?

Discuss.

Thursday, September 24, 2009

Mama's got a brand new gig

I am proud to announce that I am the new assistant for Mur Lafferty's brilliant podcast I Should Be Writing! I've said it before, I'll say it again: if you have any desire to write fiction, this is a podcast to which You Should Be Listening.

I'll be writing the show notes and "proof listening" for Mur, so if there are any screwups in the show (un-censored expletives and the like), it's now my fault, not hers. But I get to work on a project that I totally believe in... and I get a free t-shirt! Viewers of Pinky and the Brain know that humans will do anything for a free t-shirt.

Do you have any favorite podcasts? I'm also a fan of Writing Excuses and the Barnes & Noble Meet the Writers podcasts... and for non-writing themed listening, I'm all over the Savage Love podcast (if you don't already know what this is, don't click that link until you've read the Wikipedia entry for Dan Savage, because it might not be the sort of thing you're interested in listening to) and also the Sesame Street video podcasts for my daughter.

I also have some French language podcasts (One Thing In a French Day is fun), some podcast audiobooks (Mur's Heaven was the first I listened to, and I loved it), and NPR's Wait Wait Don't Tell Me!. Have I mentioned that I love my iPod? LOVE.

Tomorrow: I meet James Ellroy,
and profanity ensues.

Tuesday, September 15, 2009

Oh, hell.


I'm sure everyone else has already posted the Dirty Dancing clips... so here's Patrick dancing with his wife.

I'm bummed. Patrick Swayze was so awesome. I mean, besides the acting and dancing, for how many Hollywood stars could I get a clip of husband and wife dancing together in 1994, and have it be the same couple that was together at the end, fifteen years later? They were married for thirty-four years. AWESOME.

On a writerly note, I'd like to point out that if Dirty Dancing was a book, it would be classified as chick lit. But, oh, it's not just a chick flick, is it? It deals with growing up, finding out who you want to be and who you are, the importance and risks of telling the truth, class issues, sex and love -- and the importance and risks thereof -- and friendship and family...

This is why I've written chick lit, I think. Because there's so much good there.

And how about Ghost? If anyone is dumping on you writers of paranormal romances, you just tell 'em to shove it, 'cause if it was good enough for Patrick, it's good enough for you.

Sigh.

Okay, here's a link to take your mind off things. You see that section over in my right-hand column that says "authors I know and love"? Well, one of those authors (Mur Lafferty) just interviewed another one of those authors (Felix Gilman), and it's like an awesome-writer jamboree, I tell you! If you're not already listening to Mur's podcast, I Should Be Writing (and if you have ANY interest in writing fiction, you must get yourself over to iTunes and subscribe NOW), you can listen to the interview here:

Mur Lafferty interviews Felix Gilman & others
(Gilman's interview runs from ~minute 28 to ~minute 48)

I hereby open the comments thread to discussions of Mr. Swayze, his movies, and/or what you're doing today to cheer yourself up. I think I'm gonna go watch that SNL skit with Patrick and Chris Farley auditioning to be Chippendale's dancers...

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Balancing Act: Work Edition


Okay, Amy gets first pick because she posted in the comments first! (Although I'm happy to say that it sounds like more than one person is interested in her chosen topic.) This post is about balancing writing with the day job.

I'm an attorney. Big Firm lawyers are not known for having a whole lot of extra time on their hands, but I am here to tell you that time can be made to write if it's important to you. (If it's not that important to you, then by all means go see what's on your TiVo instead.)

When did I start to make time for my writing? In 2005, when I learned about NaNoWriMo: National Novel Writing Month.

The challenge: Write a novel (defined as 50,000 words or more) within one month. Specifically, the month of November. Even more specifically, the month that started about two weeks from when I found out about NaNo. This was ideal. It was definitely a benefit to not have too much time to consider what I was getting into, since I hadn't been writing regularly up to that point. More about "irregular" writing towards the end of this post.

The goal: The end of the "some day" novelist. If not now, when? I loved writing -- writing is my favorite part of my legal work as well -- and I wrote fiction intermittently, and even though I had never said out loud that I wanted to write a novel someday, the second I heard about NaNo, I knew that I had to do it. You wanna write fiction? Then put up or shut up.

The reason it works: Successful NaNo writers are so focused on the time constraints that the internal naysayers ("...it'll never be good enough...") have no choice but to shut up and get out of the way. How good can it be in 30 days, anyway? The point is to get the sheer volume of words down on paper. Don't get it right, get it written. You can't edit a blank page.

The result: Dude. It was awesome.

It is worth mentioning that I did not win. Let me be clear on this -- for me, NaNo was and will probably never be about "winning" in the strictest sense: 50K words in 30 days. My natural writing style apparently tops out at around 1,000 words in a day, and you need nearly twice that to win NaNo (especially since there will probably be at least a day or two where you don't write at all). It's not just that I lose quality when I try to write more than 1,000 words a day, it's that it's not fun for me anymore. And I actually lose the thread of the story by trying to pack something (anything!) into the story just to meet a high word count goal. I need more "down time" for ideas to percolate.

But I absolutely won in the grander scheme of things. In November 2005, I wrote 30,000 words that would not have been written otherwise. And because of the ridiculous time crunch, I abandoned all thoughts of getting a "perfect" writing environment, or a "long enough" span of uninterrupted time.

Admit it, writers, don't you think this? If only I didn't have to work so late, I'd have the whole evening ahead of me. If only I could write somewhere isolated where I could play my music. The if onlys will kill your productivity dead. You must squelch them quickly and ruthlessly. THIS IS THE TIME MANAGEMENT LESSON LEARNED FROM NaNo. It's not just about dumping the idea of perfection in your actual writing (it's called a "first draft" for a reason, people). It's also about dumping your ideas of having the perfect writing environment.

I was working full time at a law firm during my first NaNo, and I wrote during the down times when I was waiting for a senior partner to bring me his edits. (Before NaNo, I probably would have idly surfed the net instead, and then wondered what happened to my one evening break.) I carried a spiral notebook with me everywhere, writing in bed before I fell asleep, and in the morning right when I woke up. When I had a moment alone with my computer but no ideas, I would transcribe those handwritten notes, and often found that the new ideas would bubble up while the old ones were being typed out.

And it wasn't about inspiration. This is also important. I wrote "irregularly" before NaNo, because I basically waited to be inspired. When I was hit with an idea, I would write it (and I think I wrote it well), but in between those times... nothing. What NaNo taught me was how to work despite a lack of inspiration. It taught me how to problem-solve... I mean, something has to happen next, right? And there's a deadline, so I can't just wait a few weeks for the idea to show up on its own. So instead of waiting for that magical bolt of idea-lightning, I would consider all the things that could happen. And the more I did it, the more I would recognize when one scenario was the right one for the story.

And that's how I ended up with 30K words in 30 days despite having never written anything that long before. And I felt like I had more time in my days because I was using the time well.

Bear with me for an analogy: Weight Watchers assigns points to all foods, so you can "budget" what you eat, given the number of points you should eat every week to stay on track. Normally, if you tell me I can't have something, I immediately want it. (Very mature, I realize.) So, when I first joined Weight Watchers, I immediately did the math for one of my junk food favorites, and realized that a single Big Mac (I used to have two in one sitting, oh, how I miss my teenage metabolism!) would use up 80% of the base number of points I had in any given day, although there were extra weekly points I could use up to "pay" for that meal. And boom, like that, I wanted a Big Mac, because it was horrible for me and I "couldn't" have it.

Except, the whole point of WW is that you can have whatever you want, as long as you budget your points properly. So, if I was committed to making it happen, I could have eaten lots of zero-point foods that day to balance out the Big Mac. But every time I walked by a McDonald's, I thought, "Do I really want to spend my points that way? I mean, I could probably get something really exotic and delicious if I'm going to blow that many points in one sitting. A Big Mac isn't that good, when you get right down to it..."

And I'd move on. At this point I honestly can't remember the last time I had a Big Mac, but I used to have them all the time, without really noticing what I was doing. (You know, until that teenage metabolism abandoned me.) But once I thought hard about the trade-offs, I recognized that it wasn't worth it.

I bet you're sitting in front of the t.v. or computer for a decent chunk of every day, without really thinking about it. But this time can be budgeted another way. And I'll admit that my novel sat around mostly untouched for large chunks of 2006 and 2007. But I started noticing how much happier I was when I made the time to write, and I started using the NaNo lessons far more regularly:
  • You don't need the perfect writing environment
  • You don't need a long chunk of free time
  • You don't need to get it right the first time
  • You do need to think carefully about how your time is being spent... is it worth it?
  • Every word that you write, because you made the time to write it, is a word that would have been lost otherwise. Be proud of every single one. Only got a sentence out? You crafted fiction today, and you didn't have to, but you made it happen. That is AWESOME. Now go write another one.
A final thought: why is this post just about balancing work with the day job, as opposed to balancing work with "everything else"? Because I think there are special guilt issues that come into play when balancing writing with kids, especially if writing isn't your day job. I'll think more about it and do a future post on it, for sure.

I also plan to come back to my genre ranting, but from a broader perspective: Mur Lafferty's latest podcast talks about Art vs. Popularity, and I think that debate is very much at the heart of the chick lit vs. women's literature dichotomy. I have to think about this a little more as well before I post...

Friday, July 10, 2009

What Are You Doing Today?


Many of you may have noticed my repeated references to Mur Lafferty's blog and podcast. Here's just one example of why I read/listen to her, and why I think everyone else should as well. Click the link. Watch the video.

Go ahead, I'll wait.

Yeah.

Writers, turn off the internet and get some writing done. Okay, you can keep the internet up long enough to enter the first line / first paragraph contest currently being held by fellow writing-blogger Katie, but that's it.

If you're unemployed and you think you've checked every possible job listing site out there... go check again. Or do a full refresh check of your regular haunts and expand your search terms.

And when's the last time you got some exercise?

Now, I have to go outside and run some errands I've been dreading, including a trip to the gym. Want some accountability? Tell us in the comments what you should be doing today. And then go do it.

Thursday, July 9, 2009

Pick your prize.

Okay, I promised photos. The winner of my flash fiction contest gets his or her choice of the above hand-made envelopes; I tried to pick a selection that would please a variety of personalities. Your choices are:

1) Baby, you can drive my car
2) Money, money, money
3) Waiting for Noah

Yes, I made the envelopes myself. Yes, you can still lick & stick 'em closed like a regular envelope. Yes, the winner will also receive a matching-size blank card enclosed inside the fancy envelope. Yes, the envelope and card will mail successfully with a standard first-class stamp. AND, the envelope and card will come attractively packaged, so you can give it to someone else as a gift if you like.

For those of you who might be new to my blog, this contest has a small tie-in to my novel -- the main character of my novel makes envelopes like these... only, you know, better, because she's a graphic artist and stationery designer. The novel is still at the "querying" stage, which means I'm hunting for a literary agent. Right now there are six agents currently in possession of requested partials or the full manuscript. Here's hoping someone gets back to me soon!

Okay, here's one more photo of the prize choices, and then get out of here. As Mur Lafferty says, you should be writing.